In my post about how to get men to commit, I listed chastity as one of the elements of femininity. Let’s dig deeper into this. A marriage minded man wants his ideal wife to have zero sexual partners before him, and even if you’re not ideal, a man still wants a woman who is relatively chaste, especially if she’s older than about 20. If you want commitment, you need to understand that men are not just reacting to your looks, they’re also weighing what kind of woman you’ve been.

Men have good reason to avoid promiscuous women, and evolution has selected for men who feel an instinctual repulsion to committing to a promiscuous woman. A man can be strongly physically attracted to a woman, but feel disgust at the thought of marrying her, even if she is otherwise feminine and has a good personality. Most guys will put an attractive, sweet, feminine girl in the potential girlfriend bucket, but not if she’s slept with 20 men.

20 isn’t some magic number, and for some men it won’t be a problem, but the majority would feel uncomfortable with a number this great. So what’s the solution? Easy: keep your legs closed, have some self-control, and wait for him to prove he’s willing to consider you for more than sex. Resist the temptation to think you’re a special little snowflake who is “better than all those other girls.” The women who take this seriously usually avoid a lot of the pump and dump nonsense that ruins relations

If you’ve already been around the block a few times, lower your standards or be honest about your sexual experiences. I don’t recommend lying, because if he finds out early on, any man with self-respect will dump you on the spot, and if the relationship is already established, he may stay but lose trust and respect. A man looking for sex wants the hot, experienced girl, but a marriage minded man wants commitment. And once trust gets damaged, it tends to poison everything that follows